Principles of economics should be applied more readily to sexual interactions of attraction.
I’m not an economist, but through the course I became friends with the professor. Through discussion he would distill and pick out important material he felt I should learn. One of the principles he taught me was, if everyone is out selling apples, you should sell oranges. Idea behind this clear. Applied to interactions of attraction think about it like this; If every guy is being a ‘nice guy’ then be a bit of a jerk. Channel your inner James Dean – Rebel Without a Cause.
This is a very powerful tool to have in your arsenal. I think the power of this concept comes from standing out in an attractive way. I don’t have studies to reference, but I would wager if you dressed 9 guys in black and 1 in white, women would rate the man in white more attractive than the others on account of wearing a different color.
Still to the principle of playing to your strengths but don’t be afraid to switch things up. If you and everyone plays guitar, you might be the best guitarist but you’re advantage is diminished by the fact that everyone else plays. Instead, show off your photography skill at taking artistic black and white photos.
Lastly, don’t take this too far. You might be a house party drinking where everyone is telling drinking stories, but telling a girl about your Avant Garde writing skills is not going to help you. Don’t leave the preverbal Conversation Neighborhood, just walk down a more interesting avenue than everyone else.
1. Be Responsible, Always have a Protection
Nothing is worse than getting back, making out, you get into bed and she asks, “Do you have protection?” when you know you don’t. “Umm let me check.” Sorry buddy, you are out of luck.
I put protection in every jacket that way if I need it, I have it. Don’t keep them in your wallet; in 6 months when you open it, a little cloud of dust will hit you in the face. If you have to keep it in your pocket, take it out at the end of the night.
2. Get Tested
Get tested. If anyone tries to tell you differently, they are a fucking loser. There is nothing lame about being tested, it’s the most responsible thing you can do. Even curable STIs can leave you infertile if left untreated. So man up and go get tested… It’s free.
We’ve all seen a girl, that in our perspective, is a perfect 10. You desperately want to approach her but fear keeps you away. But, what if she never gets approached and desperate wants to be approached.
“Doing the unrealistic is easier than doing the realistic,” Tim Ferris, The 4-Hour Workweek
I was reminded of this, having coffee with my friend K. Transposing Tim Ferris on to game you get The Perfect 10 Paradox; Most guys don’t think they can pull the 9 or 10 so they go for the 6 and 7s.
“It’s lonely at the top. Ninety-nine percent of people in the world are convinced they are incapable of achieving great things, so they aim for mediocre. The level of competition is thus fiercest for ‘realistic’ goals, paradoxically making them the most time- and energy-consuming… The fishing is best where the fewest go, and the collective insecurity of the world makes it easy for people to hit home runs while everyone else is aiming for base hits. There is just less competition for bigger goals.” – Tim Ferris
Most guys don’t believe they deserve the best. Instead they go for second best. Girls don’t dress up all sexy for no reason. They want you to notice. Most guys are too scared shitless approach her and if you can, with confidence then you’re already ahead of the competition.
So finally approach that girl who is out of your league. The whole league system is a myth anyway; start acting like it! Today my friend, you are going to approach the apex girl you’re thinking of.
You deserve the best. Act like it.